Is it a good idea to be honest? Absolutely. Honest is crucial in business, all relationships, academia, and other aspects of life. Doctrinally speaking, nothing but the truth is acceptable.
However, when we talk about conveying feelings of animosity, anguish, anger, sadness, and jealousy we enter a gray area. Many say that honesty is reserved--say nothing at all is best--and you're not lying. Some go as far to say essential no matter what the circumstances, the truth just hurts and is like a bubble ready to burst. Some tell "white lies". They feel everyone should be prepared to just hear it, and if it causes massive problems so be it.
When should complete and unbridled honesty be employed?
What brand of honesty is best when it comes to telling feelings to others?
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Thanks for your comment, Andrew!
This is a tough question that I've struggled with and I'm not sure what the best answer is. But, I think in most cases honesty is best, even if it hurts. But I guess it all depends on the situation. I had a roommate once who was hurt by something I said. I didn't mean to hurt her and I think she didn't mean to take offense but she couldn't help it. She tried to brush it off without talking to me about it. I could sense something was wrong but she wouldn't admit it when I asked her. She lied and told me nothing was wrong. So, I felt hurt because she wasn't communicating with me and I felt like it was an unfair situation because obviously something was bothering her but I couldn't do anything about it because she wouldn't talk to me about it and I was oblivious to what I had done. So, I would have appreciated her being more open.
Fashion is also a blurry area when it comes to honesty. But I've appreciated the honesty of one of my roommates when it comes to this. Although I might find her honesty a little discouraging sometimes I appreciate that she expresses her opinion openly and I find it helpful to me in making things better.
I think that while honesty may hurt sometimes, if the honest remark is delivered in a constructive way, most people will appreciate it.
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